4 Things She NEEDS During Sex

Sex is a two-way street: When 760 people were asked to define what sexual satisfaction meant to them, the majority emphasized that it revolves around mutual pleasure.

But the results go on to show that good sex is more than just simultaneously climaxing. In fact, ludic sexuality—simply acting out your partner’s desires—was another popular answer.

So how can you make sure you’re clued in on what she craves? Follow these fast and easy tips below;

Speak up first: People have hang-ups about talking about sex. And women often hesitate sharing intimate info because they don’t want to be judged by what turns them on. So instead of putting her on the spot, break the ice by telling her one of your fantasies. Initiating the conversation allows her to react without feeling pressured.

Keep it casual: You’re interacting with your girlfriend, not your doctor. So “the talk” doesn’t need to be some serious sit-down moment. Instead, tell her that you had the hottest dream about her last night. Inform her of the steamy details, and then gauge her interest in reenacting it.

Be inquisitive: If you want to find out what makes her tick, inquire about any intimate pastimes. For example, if one of her favorite shows is Masters of Sex or she can’t put down her copy of Fifty Shades of Grey, ask why. Bringing in a third party shifts the attention off of your sex life, while still providing insight on what piques her interest.

Stay playful: Between kissing her lips and playing with her hair post-sex, turn your conversation into a game of “would you rather,” says Morse. For example: Would you rather blindfold me, or be blindfolded? Would you rather be on top, or have me control the pace? “By keeping it playful, you can learn a lot about her preferences,” says Morse.

PHOTOS: Late Sani Abacha's Son Mahmud Abacha Weds

 

One of the sons of late Nigerian military dictator Sani Abacha, Mahmud Abacha got married to his boo, Hamma Mohammad, on Sunday.

The event took place at Abuja National Mosque after Juma’at prayers.

Hamma is the daughter of Alhaji Mahammad Ahman Abdulmulah,

See photos from the event below:

U-17 World Cup: FIFA Praise Golden Eaglets

Fédération Internationale de Football Association (FIFA) hailed the triumphants of the 2013 FIFA U-17 World Cup, the Golden Eaglets.

Ademola Olajire, the Assistant Director (Media) of Nigeria Football Association (NFA), read the official message from FIFA President, Sepp Blatter, in Abuja on November 13, 2013, Wednesday.

The letter from FIFA, addressed to NFA President, Alhaji Aminu Maigari, described the Golden Eaglets as worthy winners.

“The FIFA U-17 World Cup UAE 2013 lived up to all its promises with some thrilling matches, fantastic goals, incredible emotions and unbelievable twists and turns.

“All of these combined to keep the fans on the edges of their seats on the final day in Abu Dhabi last Friday.

“In the end, the Nigeria U-17 team saw off the challenge of their Mexican counterparts to claim an unprecedented fourth world title following previous triumphs in 1985, 1993 and 2007.

“On behalf of the international football family, I would like to extend our warmest congratulations to the team.

“I also want to congratulate their coach and the entire technical, administrative and medical team, and to all your fans,” Blatter said.

The President of FIFA observed that the team’s victory was a product of hard work and professionalism.

“Victories such as these are always based on hard work, professionalism, and attention to detail, as well as passion and a love for the game.

“I have no doubt that all of these bode well for a very bright future, and wish you continued success with your work in the years to come,” Blatter concluded.

Meanwhile, FIFA has invited the Eaglets, Kelechi Iheanacho and Dele Alampasu, to the FIFA Ballon D’or (Footballer of the Year) gala in Zurich, Switzerland on January 13, 2014.

The Golden Eaglets won their record fourth U-17 World Cup title at the latest edition of the tournament which was held from October 17 to November 8, 2013.

Nigeria took the title following a 3-0 defeat of Mexico who they had earlier beaten 6-1 in the preliminary stage.

MAKE HER LOVE YOU: Four Things Every Man Needs to Know About Women

There are a lot of things that can cause conflict in a relationship and sometimes it boils down to couples not understanding each other.

Here are 4 things men should know about women to make things a bit easier.

How to Buy a Woman a Drink

You should be able to sense whether she's into you before you approach. First, make eye contact. If you feel a connection, walk over and ask her if you can buy her next round. If she says yes, you're in. If she turns you down, then leave her alone. You can be confident without being aggressive.

How to Plan Dinner at Your Place

"t's all about setting the scene. If you can cook, cook. If you can't, order in. That's fine. But then put dinner plates on the table and bring out the candles, flowers, and wine. She wants to see that you're being proactive and that you've put some thought into this.

How to Show a Woman You're Thinking About Her

We love flowers and we love sweet text messages. We don't mind if it's a cliche as long as you make the effort to surprise us. After my husband leaves the house in the morning, I sometimes find little notes saying 'I love you' or 'I'm thinking about you.' That's really all it takes to make my day.

How to Talk to an Angry Woman

First, listen to her speak. Then say, 'Yes, dear.' It's that simple. If you have to get something off your chest, save it until she cools off. Remember: If you really care about her, nothing is worth turning into a blowout fight.

How To Build Strong Relationships - 10 Tips

It is not a secret that any relationships face hard times and problems. It is better to be aware of the basics that will help to start building strong ties from the very beginning to feel comfortable with the partner.

1. Use relationships to teach you how to be whole within
Relationships aren’t about having another person complete you, but coming to the relationship whole and sharing your life interdependently. Learn to love the distances in relationship as much as the togetherness.

2. See your partner for who he or she really is
The romantic tragedy occurs when one partner attributes to the other the qualities the latter doesn't possess. When you realize that more often than not you don’t really know your partner, you begin to discover who they are and how they change and evolve.

3.Learn from each other
Be able to see the other as a mirror and learn from the reflection how you can be a better person. When you feel upset, don't blame your partner, remain awake to what has yet to be healed in yourself.

4. Get comfortable being alone
In order to accept that love can’t rescue you from being alone, learn to spend time being with yourself. By feeling safe and secure to be on your own within the framework of relationship, you will feel more complete, happy, and whole.

5. Look closely at why a fight may begin
Some couples remain in a vicious circle by fighting and then making up over and over again. This allows you to continue the romantic trance, creating drama and avoiding real intimacy. If you become aware of what you fear about intimacy, you’ll have a better sense of why you’re fighting—and likely will fight far less.

6. Own who you are
Own who you are. We generally grasp at romantic love because we’re yearning for something that is out of reach, something in another person that we don’t think we possess in ourselves. But then we discover that we didn’t get what we were looking for. True love is about loving yourself first. You can only get from another person what you’re willing to give yourself.

7. Don't be scared of ordinariness
After the fairy-dust start of a relationship ends, we discover ordinariness, and we often do everything we can to avoid it. The trick is to see that ordinariness can become the real “juice” of intimacy. Then everyday life with the partner becomes extraordinary.

8. Expand your heart
We all want to be happy, which also includes the desire to be close to someone. To create real intimacy, discover the spaciousness of your heart and bring awareness to what is good within you. It’s easier to find the good in your partner when you’re connected to the good in yourself.

9. Focus on giving love
Genuine love is first about giving. The unintentional outcome of loving others more deeply is that we are loved more deeply.

10. Let go of expectations
You may look to things such as romance and constant togetherness to fill a void in yourself. This will immediately cause suffering. If you unconsciously expect to receive love in certain ways to avoid giving that love to yourself, you will put your sense of security in someone else. Refer to your own resources: offer love, attention, and nurturance to yourself when you need it. Then you can let love come to you instead of putting expectations on what it should be like. 

12 Reasons Women Don't Date 'Nice Guys'

If you are a guy reading this, you have probably noticed that, instead of opting for a nice and calm partner who would treat her right (you), the girl usually chooses a 'bad boy'. If you are a girl, then you probably are wondering why you are attracted to and end up with a man who treats you badly. We've tried to come up with sensible reasons why this happens, but you are very welcome to add some new insights on the matter in the comments!

1. Not real. Nice guys are too nice. No one can always be that nice unless they're a saint. They are busy being nice instead of being real and women instinctually don't trust that. Bad boys "keep it real." Nice guys don't want to upset the apple cart.

2. Respect. No one respects a doormat. Nice guys don't set boundaries or make any real demands. A bad boy doesn't let a woman walk all over him or control him. Women can't respect a man they can control. No respect equals no attraction.

3. Predictable. Most people lead boring, predictable lives, so they're attracted to people who are exciting and a bit unpredictable. Bad boys are always a challenge.Nice guys are never a challenge. Predictable plus no excitement plus no challenge.

4. Mother Nature. Women are designed to nurture. However, instead of doing this with children, they often end up doing it with bad boys. They think their love will save them. Nice guys rarely need to be saved.

5. Fixing. Nice guys don't usually need to be fixed. Bad boys usually do, so they become a project. Women think if they can "create" the perfect man, he will never leave them. Also, if they're busy fixing someone else, they don't have to look at what needs to be fixed in their own lives.

6. Genetic wars. Women are designed to procreate with the strongest possible genes. Bad boys are sending an unconscious message that they have great genes, so they're not afraid of losing the woman by misbehaving. Nice guys are sending a message that they don't think their genes are good enough, so they won't misbehave.

7. Fear of intimacy. If a woman is afraid of intimacy, she subconsciously knows she can avoid it with a bad boy, since she can never get close enough to him to have to go there. A nice guy will eventually want a commitment, and that's scary.

8. Low self-esteem: We don't feel comfortable with people who treat us better than we treat ourselves. If you don't think much of yourself, the bad boy is simply reinforcing your negative belief. A nice guy is treating you in a way you're not familiar with.

9. Sex. Women feel a nice guy won't be good in bed. They sometimes like to be manhandled and think a nice guy won't be able to take control and get the job done. A bad boy comes across as being able to deliver, even though that may not always be the case.

10. Hot. Have you ever seen a bad boy who wasn't hot? They probably wouldn't be able to get away with half the stuff they did if they didn't look so good. Meanwhile, when a woman describes someone as a nice guy, she means, "He's not hot."

11. Charm. Nice guys don't always know what to say and are sometimes at a loss for words. Bad boys can be very charming and know exactly what women want to hear. However, they eventually switch over to being selfish. By the time they reveal their true colors, the woman has fallen for them and has a hard time letting go.

12. Protection. Historically, men have protected women — physically and otherwise. Bad boys give the illusion of being able to protect women, while withnice guys, women aren't so sure. Life is about balance. Most men fall into either the bad boy or the nice guy category. The ideal man is neither, but walks that fine line between the two. Until men learn how to do this, more often than not, women will choose the bad boy, until they realize that his bad qualities outweigh his good ones.

The Secret To Getting Any Girl To Have Sex With You

Getting to have sex with a girl you desire is a dream come true. You may want to date her or you may find her extremely sexually attractive.

Get these ten moves right, and she’ll be more than happy to have sex with you!

1. Let her see your great side:If you want to have sex with a girl, you definitely have to be good enough to get her attention. If she thinks you’re desirable and everything she wants in a great guy, half your work’s cut out for you already.

2. Let her know you’re interested in her: Talk to her, spend time with her, and let her catch you staring at her discreetly now and then. Make her wonder if you’re interested in her without revealing too much. If you ask her out without making her like you first, she’ll lose the excitement of the mysterious relationship. Make her wonder what’s on your mind and you’ll make her fall in love with you without even asking her out.

3. Get out of the friend zone: Unless you’re dating her already, the friend zone is a scary place to be. Friends don’t have sex with each other and they avoid getting sexually attracted to each other. Be her friend, but don’t be just another friend who’s got no sexual interest in her. Make it clear that you find her attractive and sexy. Tease her sexually, compliment her outfit with sexy remarks and talk dirty with her. Both of you may be friends, but let her feel the sexual tension when you’re around her.

4. Spend more time with her: If you want to have sex with a girl, the only time you can work your magic is by getting some alone time with her. You need to flirt sexually and make her feel comfortable to be with you. But you can’t do that when there are other friends around. Behave normally when there are other friends with her, but the second they walk away, say something like, “whew… now I get to spend some alone time with this sexy girl…” or something else that makes it clear that you find her attractive in a more-than-just-friends kind of way.

5. Go out with her: You don’t have to fix a date to take her out. Grab lunch together at work or help her run an errand now and then. By doing that, you’re already taking the place of her boyfriend in her mind. But always remember to keep the sexual excitement on a high. Or she’d just look at you as a friend.

6. Touch her and excite her: The touch is a very powerful way to send the right signals across without seeming desperate. Look for ways to touch her arm or clasp her hand at the opportune moment. The more you touch her delicately and sensually, the more sexually turned on she’d get.

7. Invite her to your place: Invite her to your pad, or get invited back to her place. You’ve built the sexual tension already. She knows you’re not just a friend, and she definitely knows you’re attracted to her already. By getting comfortable in each other’s places, it’s taking you one step closer to her bedroom and into her pants. After all, if you’re going to get a girl to have sex with you soon, you need to make her feel comfortable with you in each other’s private spaces.

8. Give her a few sneak peeks: So she thinks you’re a nice guy who’s attracted to her. But that’s really not enough. You need to arouse her and force her to take little glances at your sexy side. Look away from her and stretch casually when you have a hard on inside your jeans. Let her catch a sneak peek of your obliques and your rather low trousers when you’re changing your shirt at your place. Always look away when you’re flaunting your body to her. It gives her enough time to admire you sexually without the fear of getting caught. These moves will involuntarily make her get sexually attracted to you and desire you.

9. Watch a movie together: Go out on a date or stay back at home and watch a movie. A movie involves a few hours of quiet time where both of you sit really close to each other. This is where you can touch her ever so slightly with your arm or your foot. Do it the right way and be patient, the chemistry can be electrifying. If you want to seduce a girl, absentmindedly graze your arm against hers with the slightest of touches while sitting next to her. It’ll turn her on before you know it!

10. Arouse her the right way: If you want to know how to get a girl to have sex with you, you really need to remember that all the focus is on sexually exciting her and arousing her into making out with you. Never seem pushy, instead play it safe and slow instead of going too fast.

These ten tips on how to get a girl to have sex with you can help you do more than just kiss the girl you like or touch her breasts.

The Foreplay Your Man Secretly Desires

Aren’t men always ready for sex? A quick kiss, a gentle nibble and they are up for action.

But there are times they crave some foreplay too. Turning him on slowly and seductively is the way to go.

Here are the foreplay moves which they secretly crave but rarely openly accept.

Seeing you naked: Your man must have seen you naked numerous times, but what he really wants to do is, take some time out and admire your naked body. Don’t be shy, let him examine every curve and contour and feel proud that you belong to him. It’s a major turn-on.

Breath play: Men love it when you use your breath to turn them on. Slowly breathe on his neck, letting him know that you are ready to get hot and heavy with him. Breathe near his bare chest and even stomach. The rush of hot air speeds up arousal and makes lovemaking even more interesting.

Rough game: Guys often like a forceful approach to foreplay, while women prefer love tender seduction. Take charge and play boss. Don’t let him touch you, instead kiss him with all the passion you have. Using your nails will also add to the pleasure and drive him crazy.

Tantalising touches: Don’t always head for the package when trying to touch your man. Surprise him with long nail strokes or even butt squeezes. Your man will love the fact that you are making love to his entire body.

Role play: It maybe an age-old trick, but men love it when you behave like an entirely different person behind closed doors. So go all out with a wig, change the way you wear your make up, acquire an accent for the night and even give yourself a new name, if that's what floats his boat. Make it sound like a one-night stand and enjoy it like there's no tomorrow.

Playing footsie: Why not start the foreplay much before you have reached home? Play footsie with your guy when out with him. Kick of his shoes and lock toes with him. Caress his legs and even tickle your man. If you are lucky and the table cloth covers you entirely, place your leg on his lap and play gently. He will rush for the cheque and before you know it you'll be having the time of your life.

Nipple nibble: Not many know it, but men’s nipples are just as sensitive as ours. Play with your man's nipples and he'll get all charged up. Lick and suck on them and gently blow them during foreplay and see them perk up with passion.

Tip-tease: After your man is hot and hard for you, don’t let him enter you immediately. Just play with the tip of his penis and allow him to enter. Then squeeze your cervix muscles and do not allow him further entry. Do it a number of times and drive him crazy with lust.

7 Worst Foods You Should Never Eat For Breakfast

You know that eating breakfast is important. But did you realize that some a.m. choices can set the tone for how you feel the rest of your day.

Not only that, but eating a healthy breakfast every morning can reduce the risk for diseases such as cancer and diabetes. Here you will get the scoop on which breakfast foods to avoid.

Bacon, ham and sausage

Processed meat has nitrates that are associated with colorectal cancer. In fact, the Institute for Cancer Research published a list of the top ten things you can do to reduce your risk of cancer. Avoiding nitrates is a number one of them. What does that mean for morning meat eaters? It is time to find a different breakfast option.

Sugary cereals

How can you tell the difference between a bad sugary cereal and a good one for your health? Some cereals are full of carbs and sugar. When you eat them, your blood sugar rapidly spikes and then bottoms out. Since you probably do not want your energy to crash at the beginning of the day, it is best to avoid those cereals.

Instead, choose cereals with higher fiber and protein. Do you seek for another option? Add ground flaxseed or walnuts for more protein and fiber.

Packaged pancakes with artificial  sweet syrup

There are many artificial types of sweet syrup on the market that are full of high fructose corn syrup. The sweetener, which is derived from corn, is also present in most processed and packaged foods.

High fructose corn syrup can lead to more abdominal obesity and visceral fat, which is stored between the organs. This is the fat that leads to cancer. A recent study in one journal also linked high fructose corn syrup consumption to diabetes.

Toaster pastries, doughnuts

Not only are these pastries made with refined white flour, but there is much sugar added. Sugar is the worst way to fuel you in the morning, because it results in a rapid rise in blood sugar. That means you will be hungry sooner and increase your chances of high blood sugar, obesity and diabetes.

If all those health risks are not enough to put you off pastries, there is the other way they can be detrimental to your health. As many scientists believe sugar and cancer are linked.

Microwavable breakfast sandwiches

Healthy options exist, but many are packed with preservatives and sodium. In this case best idea is to make your own by microwaving a beaten egg and toast a whole grain muffin.

Light Yogurts

They may have only hundred calories and come in flavors such as red velvet cheesecake, but they are usually filled with artificial sweeteners and chemicals. Go for low fat yogurt instead.

Muffins

They top the list of the most caloric breakfast foods. What is the reason? They are extremely dense and what they are packed with is generally not what you need - white flour, oil or butter and a lot of sugar.

PHOTOS: President Jonathan Receives Bill Gates At State House, Abuja

American business magnate and Co-chair of the Bill and Melinda Gates Foundation is in Nigeria for the Stakeholders meeting on polio eradication.

The billionaire businessman was received alongside Africa's richest man, Aliko Dangote at the State House in Abuja by President Jonathan and other top government officials.

Mr. Bill Gate, was honoured with a national honour of Commander of the Federal Republic.

President Jonathan said the honour was in recognition of Gate’s supports towards the eradication of Polio myelitis in Nigeria.
 

8 Hot Ways To Spice Up Honeymoon Sex

When you think of a honeymoon, all you can think of is awesome sex; admit it! You don’t think about the hot and sticky on the beach but the wet and sweaty in the bedroom.

Naturally honeymoon sex comes with high expectations. After all, it is going to be one of the most memorable experiences of your married life. So to spice things up even more, take a look at eight ways to make hot honeymoon sex memories you'll cherish forever.

Go on an exploring trip: Explore your man's erogenous zones and watch him melt. Let him lie naked on the bed and kiss his every part, even the seemingly unsexy one like his eye lids or the tips of his fingers. Make a mental note of the parts which arouse him most when kissed and touched, and make sure you work your magic on them the next time.

Play the control game: Be his slave for the day and let him pull the strings. It’s a major turn on. Not just in the bed; let him tell you what to do during the rest of the day too. Make him your master and do all the "dirty" things he wants you to. We bet you'll remember your honeymoon for your lifetime.

Be a tease: Foreplay doesn’t have to start in the bedroom. Start touching your partner in places that charge him up, whether you are at the beach or in the pool. Why not tease him with a really low cut dress and bend a little so only his eyes can admire your décolletage. The trick is to tease him as much as you can and not have sex immediately. When you finally get to jump each other’s bones, it’ll be explosive.

Game time: It’s the best way to ensure tons of foreplay. Pick a game like strip tease or twister and alter the rules to suit your kinky fantasies. Add commands and rules that include licking whipped cream off each other or doing body shots and let the foreplay go on and on until one of you combusts and needs to take the foreplay to a new level.

Set the mood: Make your husband feel special every night by donning different sex personas. One night be the sexy seductress and the other play the damsel in distress. Indulge in some role play and set the mood of the room accordingly. Let the wine, food and even the aroma make your man think of the particular role you are going to play that night. Get into character and watch your man go gaga over you.

Lingerie talk: Sexy corsets, satin garters and lacy lingerie need to be your best friend during your honeymoon. It’s a once-in-a-lifetime opportunity, so look your best, feel your best and dress in your best lingerie. Go all out and get sexy bedroom heels with satin roses or fur that match your corset or your lacy see-through night gown.

On a high: Pop open the champagne and get high on the bubbly. Get happy high and make love. Give each other sensual massages and take the love-making to a different level altogether.

Grant a wish: Both of you make a sexy wishlist and give it to each other to fulfill. Don’t be greedy and stick to three wishes. Enjoy your honeymoon as your partner goes to any length to make sure he grants your wish. It’s romantic, and at the same time, incredibly sexy.

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ASUU STRIKE: Lecturers Vote For Continuation Of Strike

Lecturers at the University of Jos have voted for continuation of the on-going strike by the Academic Staff Union of University (ASUU) in the country.

Chairman of the chapter, Dr. David Jankam who made this known on Monday while speaking with a national daily shortly after the congress of the chapter said members did not see any substance in the dialogue with the federal government to warrant calling off the strike.

According to Dr Jankam, “We have just rounded off our meeting, as a matter of fact our members voted overwhelmingly for the continuation of the state strike.

“I can also confirm to you that five of the eight universities that made up the Bauchi Zone of ASUU has also voted for continuation of the strike, and the general saying is that the federal government has not shown any commitment so far.

“We started the meeting by briefing our members on issues resolved with the federal government in their last meeting with the president of ASUU.

“But in responding to the briefing, our members observed that the main issues that led to the strike were not discussed as part of the meeting in Aso Rock.

“As such my members said president Jonathan is taking them for a ride by trying to divert attention from the core subjects of the strike”

According to Dr. Jankam, “I will now convey the resolve of our branch to our national president in our NEC meeting scheduled for this week. If the majority of the chapter voted for call off, it will ne called off, but if majority of chapters voted for continuation, so be it” said Dr. Jankam.

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STRIKE: ASUU branches meet today, exco on Wednesday

ABUJA — ALL branches of Academic Staff Union of Universities, ASUU, will hold their congresses today to brief members on President Goodluck Jonathan’s offer.

Nigeria public universities have been closed down over four months as a result of the Federal Government’s inability to implement the agreement it entered into in 2010 with lecturers.

There have been a lot of calls from well-meaning Nigerians to the Federal Government and ASUU to come to a compromise so that students resume academic activities.

Both warring factions had maintained hard stand on the issue as ASUU argued that poor funding was responsible for the dwindling fortunes of education and its attendant poor quality of graduates, while the Federal Government said the university lecturers downed tools over enhanced earned allowance.

However, the long closure of universities led the leadership of the Senate and President Jonathan to hold separate meetings with the union and relevant stakeholders last Monday, where new offers were made to the teachers with a plea for them to re-open universities.

A branch Chairman of ASUU, who told Vanguard of today’s congresses in all the universities, said the meeting was for the chairmen to brief members on the outcome of their meeting with President Jonathan.

He further said that the outcome of today’s meeting of the various branches would be communicated to the national leadership of the union, which will in turn convene an emergency NEC meeting between Wednesday and Thursday this week to consider the positions of various branches .

The Chairman, who did not want his name to be mentioned, said: “Branches throughout the country will be holding their congresses on Monday (today) to brief our members on the outcome of the meeting with the President.

“It is at the meeting that the various branches will take position and communicate same to the national leadership Monday evening, then an emergency NEC meeting would be convened between Wednesday and Thursday.

“We have not been told of the venue, but we were told to prepare because it would take two days by road from my branch.”

He said calling for a strike or calling it off was not a decision taken by the ASUU President (Dr. Nasir Fagge) or the national executive alone.

7 Interesting Facts About Kissing

Here is the list of some interesting facts about kissing. Probably, some of them are already familiar to you and some will become a good discovery.

1. The insulting slang phrase “kiss my ass” dates back at least to the year 1705.

2. Lips are 100 times more sensitive than the fingertips. Even genitals don't possess as much sensitivity as lips.

3. Passionate kissing burns 6.4 calories per minute.

4. The mouth is full of bacteria. When two people kiss, they exchange between 10 million and 1 billion bacteria.

5. A medieval manuscript warns Japanese men against deep kissing during the female orgasm because a woman might accidentally bite off part of her lover’s tongue.

6. The Christian ritual kiss or “kiss of peace” was used during prayer, Eucharist, baptism, ordination, and in connection with greeting, funerals, monastic vows, and martyrdom.

7. Contraction of HIV through kissing is very unlikely. One woman was infected in 1997 she and the infected man both had gum disease. Transmission was likely through the man’s blood and not his saliva.

5 keys to a successful marriage

5 keys to a successful marriage

The rate of failure of marriages is rising everyday. More marriages contracted today are likely to fail than those of say 50 years ago.

Success is no respecter of persons but of principles. Success is not an accident.
There are many keys to success in marriage but I will just discuss five. They are Powerful preparation, Powerful relationship with God, Positive communication, Productive Partnership, and Practical perspective.
1. Powerful preparation. Winning teams take time to prepare. They prepare to win. They prepare for all possible scenarios. They practice how to defend against free kicks. They even prepare how to play with a man down. Doctors are licensed to practice after about 8 years of training. Most people never take time to prepare for success in marriage. That you know how to sleep with someone or that you have a degree does not mean you are prepared for marriage. You must take your time to prepare yourself by reading books, attending seminars, asking questions, growing spiritually, etc. Prepare for the journey. The level of your preparation determines the level of your success.
2. Powerful relationship with God. This gives you two things: winning principles and prevailing power. Your spouse must not replace God. Adam knew God before he was given a wife. Eve married Adam before they sinned. The first thing to find out in choosing a life partner is how born again and how close to God he or she is. Marrying an unbeliever is completely out of the question. You must have a sound prayer life; a sound study life and the ability to hear from God. That comes by giving him time. Give God your ears. If God cannot have your ears, there is very little He can do to help you. Learn to switch off everything and observe a quiet time with God daily. You need this especially when the going gets tough.
3. Productive Partnership. All partnerships are not productive. You cannot have a productive partnership
o     Without a common purpose
o     Without common values-you must define family values and strive to live by them: values like honesty, personal growth, worship, etc
o     With someone that is exactly like you. The most effective partnership is one in which both partners bring something to the table that the other person does not have. That way they can compliment each other. That way there is mutual respect. My wife has a thoroughness, intuition and drive that prevent me from making costly mistakes in my quest for results. I listen to her. The essential ingredients of productive partnership are commitment, honesty, faithfulness, hard work etc
o     With someone who is selfish. I was watching a football match one day in which a striker was face to face with the goal keeper. He took a shot and the goal keeper saved it. But they could have scored if he had just passed the ball to his team mate on his right who was at a better advantage to put the ball into the net. They lost that chance because he was selfish. To win, you must learn to pass the ball. It does not matter who scored the goal as long as the team wins. The role is not as important as the goal. To have a winning team, you must be prepared to put your partner before yourself.
4. Positive communication. A man lost his job, came home quiet and depressed. He told his wife he was on a little break when he failed to prepare for work the next few days. He simply said he had no money when house keeping money finished. The wife, after sometime, started thinking he had started to have an affair outside. It was later she discovered her husband had lost his job.
o     Talk to each other clearly, simply and sincerely. Silence is not the best way to communicate what you want; your spouse is not a mind reader. Lack of adequate information is the foundation for assumptions. Assumptions have destroyed more marriages than anything else. Anger is not also a good way to communicate displeasure. The fire of anger may sometimes be difficult to control.
o     Maintain trust; it is the foundation of success in any relationship. Something is wrong if you step away from your spouse to answer your call. What are you hiding? Never lie to each other. A lie is also when half truth is released and something is withheld with the intention to deceive the other person. That is not sincere communication. All vital information must be discussed promptly and wisely especially if it is likely to be offensive.
o     Listen more than you talk. This is important for the man.
o     In addition to speaking to each other, you must learn to speak each other’s love language. What makes you spouse feel loved? You may be working hard and yet your spouse does not feel loved. I have heard some men say, ‘I work hard and I provide all that you need; you lack nothing. What else do you want from me?’ Gifts may not be your wife’s love language. May be spending quality time with her is what makes her feel loved. It could be affectionate touch, or helping out with household chores. Here are the five love languages according to Dr Gary Chapman:
1. Words of Affirmation
2. Receiving Gifts
3. Quality Time
4. Acts of Service
5. Physical Touch
Find out your spouse’s love language and begin to speak it. it may not be easy at first, as it is with learning any new language but the rewards are enormous.
5. Practical perspective. Know the difference. Women and men are essentially different. Let me point out a few differences.
o     Women process by talking; men process by thinking and in silence. A man may appear uninterested when you are talking to him but he will show up days later and say ‘that thing you were talking about’.
o     Women remember more details than men. Be careful what you say because she will quote you exactly after ten years; giving you the date and time you said it. It is due to the nature of their brain.
o     Men enjoy the result; women the process.
As you apply these principles, I pray your marriage will get sweeter in Jesus name. Have a blessed week.
Rev. (Dr.) Charles Olowojoba is the Snr. Pastor of Dayspring Bible Church, Sabon-Lugbe, Airport Road, Abuja & President, Dayspring Christian Ministries Int’l.  e-mail: dayspringcm2000@yahoo.com

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5 keys to a successful marriage

Category: Sunday sermon Published on Sunday, 10 November 2013 05:00 Written by Rev. (Dr.) Charles Olowojoba Hits: 94

Success is no respecter of persons but of principles. Success is not an accident. The rate of failure of marriages is rising everyday. More marriages contracted today are likely to fail than those of say 50 years ago.

There are many keys to success in marriage but I will just discuss five. They are Powerful preparation, Powerful relationship with God, Positive communication, Productive Partnership, and Practical perspective.
1. Powerful preparation. Winning teams take time to prepare. They prepare to win. They prepare for all possible scenarios. They practice how to defend against free kicks. They even prepare how to play with a man down. Doctors are licensed to practice after about 8 years of training. Most people never take time to prepare for success in marriage. That you know how to sleep with someone or that you have a degree does not mean you are prepared for marriage. You must take your time to prepare yourself by reading books, attending seminars, asking questions, growing spiritually, etc. Prepare for the journey. The level of your preparation determines the level of your success.
2. Powerful relationship with God. This gives you two things: winning principles and prevailing power. Your spouse must not replace God. Adam knew God before he was given a wife. Eve married Adam before they sinned. The first thing to find out in choosing a life partner is how born again and how close to God he or she is. Marrying an unbeliever is completely out of the question. You must have a sound prayer life; a sound study life and the ability to hear from God. That comes by giving him time. Give God your ears. If God cannot have your ears, there is very little He can do to help you. Learn to switch off everything and observe a quiet time with God daily. You need this especially when the going gets tough.
3. Productive Partnership. All partnerships are not productive. You cannot have a productive partnership
o     Without a common purpose
o     Without common values-you must define family values and strive to live by them: values like honesty, personal growth, worship, etc
o     With someone that is exactly like you. The most effective partnership is one in which both partners bring something to the table that the other person does not have. That way they can compliment each other. That way there is mutual respect. My wife has a thoroughness, intuition and drive that prevent me from making costly mistakes in my quest for results. I listen to her. The essential ingredients of productive partnership are commitment, honesty, faithfulness, hard work etc
o     With someone who is selfish. I was watching a football match one day in which a striker was face to face with the goal keeper. He took a shot and the goal keeper saved it. But they could have scored if he had just passed the ball to his team mate on his right who was at a better advantage to put the ball into the net. They lost that chance because he was selfish. To win, you must learn to pass the ball. It does not matter who scored the goal as long as the team wins. The role is not as important as the goal. To have a winning team, you must be prepared to put your partner before yourself.
4. Positive communication. A man lost his job, came home quiet and depressed. He told his wife he was on a little break when he failed to prepare for work the next few days. He simply said he had no money when house keeping money finished. The wife, after sometime, started thinking he had started to have an affair outside. It was later she discovered her husband had lost his job.
o     Talk to each other clearly, simply and sincerely. Silence is not the best way to communicate what you want; your spouse is not a mind reader. Lack of adequate information is the foundation for assumptions. Assumptions have destroyed more marriages than anything else. Anger is not also a good way to communicate displeasure. The fire of anger may sometimes be difficult to control.
o     Maintain trust; it is the foundation of success in any relationship. Something is wrong if you step away from your spouse to answer your call. What are you hiding? Never lie to each other. A lie is also when half truth is released and something is withheld with the intention to deceive the other person. That is not sincere communication. All vital information must be discussed promptly and wisely especially if it is likely to be offensive.
o     Listen more than you talk. This is important for the man.
o     In addition to speaking to each other, you must learn to speak each other’s love language. What makes you spouse feel loved? You may be working hard and yet your spouse does not feel loved. I have heard some men say, ‘I work hard and I provide all that you need; you lack nothing. What else do you want from me?’ Gifts may not be your wife’s love language. May be spending quality time with her is what makes her feel loved. It could be affectionate touch, or helping out with household chores. Here are the five love languages according to Dr Gary Chapman:
1. Words of Affirmation
2. Receiving Gifts
3. Quality Time
4. Acts of Service
5. Physical Touch
Find out your spouse’s love language and begin to speak it. it may not be easy at first, as it is with learning any new language but the rewards are enormous.
5. Practical perspective. Know the difference. Women and men are essentially different. Let me point out a few differences.
o     Women process by talking; men process by thinking and in silence. A man may appear uninterested when you are talking to him but he will show up days later and say ‘that thing you were talking about’.
o     Women remember more details than men. Be careful what you say because she will quote you exactly after ten years; giving you the date and time you said it. It is due to the nature of their brain.
o     Men enjoy the result; women the process.
As you apply these principles, I pray your marriage will get sweeter in Jesus name. Have a blessed week.
Rev. (Dr.) Charles Olowojoba is the Snr. Pastor of Dayspring Bible Church, Sabon-Lugbe, Airport Road, Abuja & President, Dayspring Christian Ministries Int’l.  e-mail: dayspringcm2000@yahoo.com

STRIKE: Indications That ASUU May End Strike This Week

There are indications that the Academic Staff Union of Universities (ASUU) may call off the their lingering strike on Thursday.
Barring a last-minute change, the National Executive Committee of ASUU will meet on Wednesday night to consider the position of the congresses of the over 50 public universities regarding the offer made by the FG to revamp the institutions.

ASUU and the FG presided by Goodluck Jonathan met last Tuesday (started on Monday) in Abuja.

Then ASUU leaders briefed the zonal coordinators on the offer and ordered the local branches to organize congress meetings.

This step is to enable all the lecturers to be involved into the action the union would take after its NEC meeting on Thursday.

However, feelers from most universities that had organised their congresses revealed that ASUU would suspend the strike after the Thursday NEC meeting.
In some universities, the congress meetings will be held today. 

However, there is no official information regarding whether the strike will be called off or not after the NEC meeting.

The Ibadan Zonal Coordinator of ASUU, Dr. Nasir Adesola, said,

“Yes, the NEC will hold on Wednesday evening but ASUU has a process which we are going to follow. NEC reserves the right to call off the strike after due consultation with members and this is why congresses are being called in all the chapters of the union."

Another source disclosed that some members had expressed mixed feelings about the Federal Government’s new offer based on its refusal to honour past agreements.

A top official of the union, who confirmed the fears, told one of the journalists that although members’ opinions at the zonal congresses were divided over the government’s offer, the majority still decided to give the government the benefit of the doubt.

He also said that the majority opinion was that the review of the agreement which was supposed to hold this year should be postponed till next year in the interest of peace.

The official added that members were persuaded because President Goodluck Jonathan personally met with the union. They felt since the President was involved in the discussions, the government would not say that it was arm-twisted to make the offer.

One of the sources at the meeting between the government and ASUU revealed that the government after a long debate had agreed to inject N220bn yearly for the next five years starting from 2014.

According to this information provided from this source, Jonathan showed he was serious about ending the strike, both parties were frank during the longs-lasting discussions and demonstrated their commitment to the matter.

It was also added,

“The money will be released on a yearly basis at N220bn per annum beginning from 2014. For the outgoing year, the Federal Government will only release N100bn and this has been processed.

What is more, the National Universities Commission and the Trade Union Congress are to become joint guarantors of the new agreement while the Minister of Education will act as the implementation officer.

The source also stated that the government had agreed to revamp the public universities by ensuring that all the issues that always lead to strike were dealt with once and for all.