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Why Some Women Cannot Enjoy Sex

QUESTION:

My wife is sexually frigid. There is nothing I do sexually that moves her. Please help me, I am getting frustrated. What can we do?

Mr. Jones

Sexual frigidity can be a problem in marriage, but this article will go a long way in helping to educate the likes of Mr. Jones and his wife.

According to the Oxford Advanced Learner dictionary, frigidity in women is the lack of the ability to enjoy sex. With about 7 billion people on earth and over half of this number being women, it is not impossible some women are born physically incapable of experiencing orgasm. When a woman finds it impossible to experience orgasm or enjoy sex, the problem is usually emotionally caused and not physically induced. That is why it has been said that a woman’s greatest sex organ is her mind. There is no reason why every woman should not have regular and frequent orgasms, if she wants to. No psychiatrist has ever seen a woman with this condition who was raised by loving parents in a warm, secure family environment. Most women who suffer from orgasmic impairment suffered serious emotional deprivation during childhood and after.

It has been discovered that women raised by loving and caring parents usually enjoy the pleasure of lovemaking more than those raised by cruel and unloving parents. This is so because the warm father-daughter love relationship experienced during a girl’s formative stage plays a very important role in whom she grows to become. That is why every father must open his heart and his arm to his daughter at all times, and this I can say, is strange to the norms in Africa, where the girl-child is seen as “her mother’s child” while the male-child is embraced and cuddled by the father.

As a father, opening your heart and your arm to your girl-child now will not only help to build her self-worth and give her a sense of belonging, it will also inform the kind of relationship she will have in the future with her husband and children. Every time a father engages in acts that can turn his daughter off from him, he is sowing a negative seed into her future. Fathers need to know that they are the first contact their daughters have of the opposite sex. Whatever they believe of you is what they will believe of every man including their future husbands.

Sexual frigidity is usually a result of emotional withdrawal from the opposite sex that can be well developed by the time a girl is six years. Cold, selfish fathers are the greatest cause of cold, frigid women.

Dealing with a frigid wife
Frigidity in women can be overcome with great determination on their part and with tender loving care from their husband. A man with a frigid wife must know it is not by her making that she is that way, and also know that his wife’s rejection of him is not about him but a carryover from childhood. She is the way she is because of the nasty treatment she got from her father and therefore, in order to help her, he must do all to prove to her that he loves her and that he is not like her father.

This is definitely a task that requires some patience.  Every action should be kind and tender. Avoid raising your voice at her because this will only remind her of how her father treated her in the past as a child, and make her see a similarity in you and her father, and convincing her that you are different will be difficult. Treat her with dignity and respect both in the public and private, and gradually she will come out of her cocoon. And once her mind becomes cleared, her body will be responsive.

Why get married at all when you know you are frigid?
This is a common question husbands of women suffering from frigidity ask their wives, but such men need to know that many of these women are not even aware they have such a problem. In fact, many of such women were eager to get married because they wanted to get away from their fathers and because they were in search of the love they missed at home. They find themselves in marriage before they realise they are unable to open themselves up and receive the love of their husbands. And many times, they have no clue as to why it is so. They just believe they are so because that is who they are made to be. It takes a psychiatrist or somebody knowledgeable in this field to open their eyes to the root of their problem and when this is done, the problem is half solved.

What if as a woman I don’t like sex and I don’t even want to like it?
This is most likely a result of your resentment for your father which has now been transferred to your husband. Over the years, because of your experience with your father and what you have come to believe of men, you have built a shell of psychological self-protection around yourself and this has stifled your natural flow of emotions, making you a selfish person that is only concerned about herself, incapable of receiving and giving love. And this of course is not the way God designs us to live. By the law of cause and effect, whatever you do not sow you cannot attract. The truth is, if you do not make serious effort in changing your stand, it may cost you your home. This is because this kind of attitude, rather than protect us, hurts us the more. Emotional self-protection doesn’t really keep you from being hurt, for it wounds everyone you love and consequently you yourself.

Apart from the above reason for sexual frigidity in women, a good number of women may also experience what I call secondary sexual frigidity. This occurs over a particular period in life when they suffer emotional trauma as a result of happenings in their lives such as uncaring attitude of their spouses, or neglect from their spouse over the years. Thus, they close up emotionally, and resent anything call sex. And since sex is a thing of the mind, it becomes impossible for them to enjoy it.

Ladies, 12 Steps To Make Him Love You

The fact is, the course of true love never runs smooth, so here’s a few tips to ensure he falls for you as much as you have for him.

1. Eye Him:

Not of your breasts or bottom or any other body part, but of your eyes. Locking eyes with a guy doesn’t just tell him you’re interested, it can even make him feel like he’s falling in love with you. Why? Because it’s the behaviour of loved-up couples. By encouraging him to gaze into your eyes by maintaining eye contact with him, you can lead his brain towards the idea of love.

2. Be Like Him

There’s no need to start shaving your chin or scratching between your legs, but focusing on the ways in which you’re alike can help create a mutual attraction. We may not realise it, but we have a natural tendency to go for people who not only have similar interests and backgrounds to us, but also use similar facial expressions. Researchers found that we’re more likely to go for people who look similar to us because we perceive certain facial attributes as clues to personality. Laughter lines, frown lines, wide smiles, restrained expressions are all indications of what a person is like – sociable, friendly, shy, emotional – so we seek out people who look as though they’d be compatible with us.

3. But Don’t Go Too Far

The reason for this one is simple: he’ll know, you’ll know and it doesn’t bode well for the future. Adapting your behaviour slightly is one thing, but faking aspects of your personality or pretending you’re really into golf, when in fact it bores you brainless, will just lead to trouble. Sometimes, however, you might find yourself enjoying things you didn’t before simply because you hadn’t tried them and that’s fine. So feel free to try the things he does, but if it doesn’t feel like a good fit, drop it. Instead, encourage him to try doing the things you enjoy and see how that works.

4. Hang Around A Lot

This sounds counter-intuitive but it’s not. Familiarity doesn’t breed contempt (unless he doesn’t like you in the first place, in which you’re kind of doomed, sorry). In fact, the more time you spend together, the more he’ll like you. Advertising works in part because it repeatedly exposes you to a particularly product. It’s the same with people – the more time you spend together, taking for granted that there’s some mutual attraction to begin with, the more you’ll grow to like each other.

5. Now Disappear

Okay, not off the face off the earth, but just enough to remind him how much he loves spending time with you. New couples often go through a stage where they’re living in each other’s pockets. Then there might come a period where the excited feelings level out. Before that happens, take a step back and be a little less available. Spend more time with your friends (they’ve been feeling neglected anyhow!), see your family, work late a few nights. This isn’t about game playing but it’ll give you a greater sense of control of your own emotions, and help to heighten his.

6. Ask For His Help

We all like to feel needed. The reason is simple: if someone needs to ask youradvice, needs you to help them shift a bed, needs you to make them feel better, helping them makes you feel good about yourself. Feeling needed can also make someone insecure feel safe – after all, if you need him, you’re less likely to run off with some other guy, right? In this day and age when women are fiercely independent, a man can feel less able to give her what she needs – other than sex, what does he have to offer? So by relying on him a little – and letting him rely on you too – you’re allowing the bond between you to deepen. A good step towards falling in love.

7. Be Confident Too

Yes, guys like to feel needed. No, they don’t want to feel as though you might collapse into a boneless snivelling heap if they’re not around. A woman who knows what she likes and makes every effort to get it is very attractive. In fact, when a woman like that needs a man it makes him feel all the more valuable – because it’s as though she needs him specifically, rather than just any old guy.

8. Have A Laugh

More than wanting to be seen as strong, clever or tough, men want to be the funny one. And the reason is simple: women love a man who makes them laugh. When people seem to be enjoying our entertaining banter, it makes us feel confident. And that, in turn, makes us feel good, sexy even. If, each time you see a guy, you leave him feeling great about himself, he’ll begin to associate that feeling with you. You’re halfway to making him fall in love with you.

9. Be A Good Friend

This one should be a no-brainer but for some reason it often gets ignored. Playinghard to get, teasing him, acting fragile are all ways you can try and ‘trick’ a man into a kind of love. But the fact is that if you want a man to care about you deeply, friendship is the key. At work, with friends, men are often ‘on guard’, being competitive and so on. When they’re with you, they need to feel safe – gameplaying might help hook a guy in the first place, but it gets extremely tiring. Being supportive, listening to him, making him laugh, helping him feel good about himself and life in general – these are the things that make him really value you. And the more he values you, the more he loves you.

10. Feed Him

The way to a man’s heart is through his stomach. It’s such a cliché and it feels pretty sexist too. Why should a woman have to feed her man? And why can’t he feed YOU grapes instead? Well, the fact is everyone – man, woman, dog or cat – loves to be fed. This isn’t something that’s peculiar to men, but it is a sure-fire way to make anyone feel loved. It’s about being taken care of, partly, but it’s also because being hungry for food is such a basic primal thing. If someone brings you a freshly prepared platter of tongue-tingling delights is it any wonder we love them more?

11. Love Him

Love is a two-way thing. You can’t expect him to love you if you don’t really love him in the first place. What does that mean? Sometimes we want someone to fall in love with us because we need to feel wanted, but in reality, we’re not actually in love with the person ourselves. Ask yourself how you feel about this guy. Do you accept him for who he is? Value him and the fact he’s in your life? Do you appreciate all that he does for you? Feel as though he’s your best friend, someone you can rely on in all things? If not, you may just be wishing to be loved without being willing to love yourself. But the two go hand in hand.

12. Love Yourself

This is both the first and the last step in getting a guy to fall for you. Because if you don’t truly love yourself, he will find it difficult to fall in love with you. Think of yourself as the number one prize – because to the right person that’s exactly what you are. To get to feel that good about yourself you need to learn to appreciate all the good things you have to offer. And by that we don’t mean your bootilicious behind, your come-to-bed eyes or any other thing you can see in the mirror. It’s also not about the new and expensive things in your wardrobe, your skills at work or the fact you can Azonto better, it’s about loving who you are as a person. Knowing yourself, knowing that you’re sociable, witty, kind, insightful, cool under pressure, empathetic, whatever, is the first step in loving yourself. Then let him see your best attributes as often as you can. Put yourself in situations where you can shine and he’ll soon see the light.

Top Ten Ways To Use Your Legs For Better Sex

You may not know this, but every body part has the potential to maximise pleasure during sex, for instance, your legs.

Most people don’t know how you can use your legs in different ways during sex to enhance sensation for yourself and for your partner. So, next time instead of letting them just lie there or dangle off the bed, use these tips to steam things up in the bedroom with those sexy pins.

Squeeze for pleasure - During the act if your man is on top, squeeze your legs together as this will tighten the fit and increase pleasure. However, make sure to keep your pelvic region relaxed, so he can enter you easily.

One leg up - Steam up things between the sheets by drawing your knee to your chest during missionary. By doing this, he has more chances of hitting your g-spot. Start with one leg and you could experiment with both to see how it feels.

Hook and cook - Standing sex can be a lot of fun once in a while. But, we know how uncomfortable things can get. Make things snug and pleasurable by hooking one of your legs around his thigh. Orgasm guaranteed.

Rise and shine - This position is really simple and very enjoyable. All you have to do is lie on your back and keep your feet flat on the bed. Just when he is about to enter you, lift your hips into a bridge position. This position also gives you an upper hand and you can guide him properly. Are you ready to try this one tonight?

Use your thighs - Which guy will refuse a lap dance? It drives most men crazy! He’s definitely going to love this move. Just ask him to sit on a chair, facing him, rest your hands on the back of the chair. Now, straddle one of his upper legs and rub and caress his inner thighs with yours.

Spread it nice - Yes, you have to spread your legs during sex. But, have you tried spreading them during doggie position? Well, next time spread your legs extra wide to give him a good view. This also enhances sensation.

Leggy signals - The simple gesture of opening your legs can be extremely powerful. It is a subtle way of inviting him in. You could do it casually with your clothes on or in bed. Give him the open invitation by sexily and slowly opening your legs when he is watching.

Dress them up - There’s something really sexy about stockings, don’t you think? Dress your legs with sexy stockings and stilettos to create visual appeal. You could also sexily remove your stockings while he’s watching you and watch him go crazy.

The butterfly position - Increase your oral pleasure by spreading your legs wide when he’s going down on you. This gives him more area to work on and increases the sensation.

Clean finish - This move is the easiest and works extremely well. During missionary, open your legs just when you’re about to finish. This move will give you a better chance of dual orgasm.

Go try it!

Buhari, Tinubu Beg Amaechi To Join APC

Chieftains of the All Progressives Congress, APC, Asiwaju Bola Tinubu, General Muhammadu Buhari, rtd and the National Chairman of the APC Chief Bisi Akande, yesterday, in Port Harcourt, Rivers State, urged Governor Chibuike Amaechi to come over to the APC.

Describing Governor Amaechi as a very courageous politician, Tinubu said the APC was the party for people like the governor.

As the recruitment train of the All Progressives Congress, APC, moved to Port Harcourt, Rivers State capital yesterday, Governor Rotimi Chibuike Amaechi, one of the seven opposition governors amused his numerous supporters as he promised to consult with President Goodluck Jonathan and other stakeholders in the political sector before deciding on whether he would remain in the Peoples Democratic Party, PDP, or cross over to the All Progressive Congress, APC.

The governor who spoke at a rally organised to receive the national leadership of the APC in Government House; Port Harcourt, yesterday, said he was a special person among the seven governors that floated the new Peoples Democratic Party. Unlike others according to him, he hails from the same South-South zone with President Goodluck Jonathan.

I’m special among G7 govs  — Amaechi

“I am peculiar in the group of the seven governors. The President comes from our zone.  I will consult our leaders, the President; I will consult you, (referring to the mammoth crowd). I will consult all consultables.

I will come back to you. The day we shall take a decision it will be at the new stadium that can take 40,000 persons.  If we are staying (referring to the PDP), we shall call the President to the stadium to address us, but  if we are going we shall call Tinubu and Buhari to come and address us, ” he said.

The governor who took on  his political foes said the political crisis in the state was largely due to his refusal to abuse public funds, stressing that he was not a corrupt governor.  “They don’t accuse me of being corrupt. They only say I don’t run an inclusive government which is Chop I chop”, he said.

Continuing, he said he would continue to pray to the Almighty God to protect the state from those he accused of plotting to plunder its resources.

Governor Amaechi, who laced his speech with some  gospel songs said the Almighty God had always put his opponents to shame, adding that it was part of the reasons why he danced joyously at the funeral of the foster mother of the first lady which held in Okrika, Rivers State recently.

“I was told I would be stoned at Okrika if I come there. I went there, I raised my right hand and there was applause, I raised the left, it was the same. I said God, I thank you.  Those on the other side are corrupt. We shall reply them one after the other. They have served and now are hungry.”

Continuing, the governor described some of his political foes as “desperate and hungry politicians” even as he assured that he would continue to deliver on the dividends of democracy to the state.

Dismissing fears that he would be removed as governor through a court verdict on November 11, the governor also gave a brief account of how his administration had been spending public funds.  “You have been hearing we will remove him since 2007. Have I been removed?

They talk as if they own God. They said we will be removed on the 11th which is Monday.  Come on that day, I will dance here”.  Amaechi then burst into a gospel song again which said, “there is nobody greater than God, there is no one greater than Jehovah Lord Divine”.

He said his administration was constructing roads, building health centres and schools, adding that he had also commenced an empowerment scheme for youths in various wards in the state.

Governor Amaechi further called on the people to resist acts of impunity on the part of the Police command in the state.

“I came down to march with you when I heard that they locked the gate at the airport against you. We walked five kilometres to the airport. We forced the gate open and I walked with you. We must prepare ourselves from now on”, he said.

Come, join APC — Buhari, Tinubu, Akande

Asiwaju Bola Tinubu, General Muhammadu Buhari, rtd., and the National Chairman of the APC Chief Bisi Akande in their separate speeches at the event urged Governor Amaechi to come over to the APC.

While commending the achievements of the governor so far in the state, Tinubu said they were in Port Harcourt to invite him to join the APC.  “We did not come here to campaign but to see and invite. Amaechi has performed well.  This country can’t progress on lies.”

Tinubu later moved a motion calling on the governor to cross over to the APC and it was endorsed by the mammoth gathering.

Representatives of the 23 local governments in the state, 26 lawmakers, led by the Speaker, Hon Otelemaba Amachree and some members of the National Assembly took turns to pledge their profound loyalty to the governor.

The five anti-Amaechi lawmakers in the state House of Assembly and those against him at the National Assembly were absent.

You are epitome of courage under fire—Akande tells Amaechi

National Chairman of APC, Chief Bisi Akande in his speech said: “Today, the unstoppable APC train, which has made important stops in Kano, Jigawa and Adamawa, has arrived in Rivers State.

“This is another important stop, because it allows us, the APC leaders, not only to invite Chibuike Amaechi, the courageous governor of Rivers, to join the growing APC family, but to show our solidarity with a man who has succeeded in battling anti-democratic forces to a standstill.

“Let us be clear. Our party has stood shoulder-to-shoulder with Governor Amaechi since the beginning of his travails. We have been unrelenting in our support because our party stands for justice, fairness and unfettered freedom. We abhor dictatorship clad in fake democratic garments.

“We believe that the system of government that we operate does not make provision for an imperial presidency, who can neither be criticized nor opposed. That is why we told those who said the APC is crying more than the bereaved on the Rivers State issue, that we are indeed the bereaved anytime the rule of law is supplanted with the rule of the jungle; and we are the bereaved anytime a democratically-elected President thumbs his nose at the Nigerian Constitution. Or how else do we explain a situation in which a duly elected Governor, who is known to the Constitution as the Chief Security Officer of his state, is now being made to run his state side by side with the State Police Commissioner, who has been elevated to the de facto Governor by the presidency?”

“How do we explain a situation in which a state governor is being prevented from accessing his official residence by the police who should take orders from him? Where is it done that a state governor cannot receive visitors, including fellow state governors, without being tear-gassed and humiliated by the police? Or how does one justify a situation in which armed thugs backed by the police attack lawmakers in the hallowed chambers of the State House of Assembly?

Gov. Amaechi has been enduring these and other indignities, without wilting under fire! His plane has been grounded under flimsy, cooked-up excuses! They felt they have clipped his wings, but he is soaring even higher.

What is his offence? Standing up for the defence of democracy and the Constitution, leading his fellow Governors under the aegis of the Nigerian Governors’ Forum to reject creeping dictatorship. But because he provided good leadership, because he has the support of his colleagues in the NGF and because his cause is just, he has prevailed over his adversaries, and he stands taller than his physique.

Because he stands as a bulwark against those who wanted to annihilate democracy and cripple governance, the plan to extend the anarchy in Rivers State to other states of the Federation has failed. That is why we called him an epitome of courage.

It was Maya Angelou, the African-American author and poet, who said courage is the most important of all the virtues, because without courage, you can’t practice any other virtue consistently. Perhaps that was why another American poet, Robert Frost, said that freedom lies in being bold. Thanks to Gov. Amaechi’s courage, Nigeria’s democracy is stronger, and our country is better.

We salute your courage under fire, your tenacity under an endless assault and your commitment to unfettered freedom for all citizens.

Since the leaking umbrella can no longer protect you from the vagaries of harsh weather, we ask you to jump on the APC train that will take Nigeria to the promised land!

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ASUU Strike To End Next Week

There are strong indications that the protracted strike by Academic Staff Union of Universities, ASUU, that has crippled academic activities for over four months may end in the next one week.

Sources at the Monday night meeting between the Federal Government led by President Goodluck Jonathan, the leadership of ASUU, Nigeria Labour Congress, NLC, and Trade Union Congress of Nigeria, TUC, said both the Federal Government and leaders of ASUU had shifted grounds and leaders of ASUU would meet with its organ (National Executive Council) to brief members of the outcome and then take necessary action.

One of the sources said: “Both the Federal Government and the leadership of ASUU are now on the same page. Both parties have shifted grounds. The leadership of ASUU will now meet with its appropriate organ to brief its members and take the necessary action.

 

“ASUU is in the right position to inform the public after meeting with its organ. However, I can tell you that all things being equal, the strike should be over in the next one week.”

The meeting between the government and the labour leaders started at about 2:30pm on Monday and ended at about 3:30am on Tuesday with a 15 minutes break.

5 Ways Women Play Hard-To-Get And How To Make Her Say YES

There's more to her tease than meets the eye: Women play hard-to-get to make you want them, and also as a test of your commitment.

Your willingness to keep pursuing her tells her your final goal: an actual relationship. Women have to weed out the men who are just interested in them for sex. Dealing with girls who play hard-to-get usually requires too much work for one-night-stand seekers.

Although men and women are equally guilty of playing coy, the study found ladies use five particular tactics. Never let her ploys wreck your game again:

1. She withholds sex.
You’re seeing a new girl who’s definitely not a virgin, yet she’s treating your first time together like the Holy Grail. She’s withholding because she doesn’t feel secure with you yet.

Your plan: Show her something serious could be on the horizon. Toss out the “wait 3 days to call” rule, hang out 2 days in a row, and invite her to an event that’s a few weeks away. She needs to feel that you’re sticking around. By making plans well beyond next weekend, you prove exactly that.

2. She acts sarcastic.
Don’t let her verbal sparring discourage you. A lot of guys fail this. Either they’re really nice or complimentary, or they take it personally, like she is actually dissing them. In reality, she’s flirting and trying to show you she’s a bit of a challenge.

Your plan: Give it right back to her. Be sarcastic, too. Play along. That’s what going to get her attention. Just make sure she knows you’re teasing, not lashing out because you’re offended. As you make a jab, smile and touch her on the arm or shoulder to show you're playing around.

3. She makes you chase her.
The harder you work to win her affection, the easier it is for her to let her guard down. We want to test men to make sure that they’ve built up genuine feelings for us—that they're not going to be hitting it and quitting it. And, she concedes, a lot of women like the pursuit.

Your plan: Put time and detail into getting to know her, instead of just throwing together last-minute or casual dates.

And when you make plans together, be on time. A woman will make a man chase as long as she feels like she can’t trust him—he’s showing signs of flakiness, breaking plans with her, things like that. But if you’re reliable, her walls will come down more quickly.

4. She looks at you, then turns away.
We think we should just give a guy a little signal, and he should be the one to come over to us.

Your plan: Before you introduce yourself, make sure she didn’t just make accidental eye contact. See if she looks back a second time. If she checks you out again, smile and motion for her to come over, perhaps even pat the chair beside you. She’ll likely protest—which gives you a chance to establish a fun back-and-forth. I’ve seen this done before, and usually the woman is the one to cave in. Voila, you’re in.

5. She's slow to respond.
If she takes hours to answer your texts, she may, in fact, be interested—but that interest is overpowered by skepticism. You haven’t made a strong enough connection yet to be on her radar.

Your plan: Playfully call her out on her Grandma pace. If it's becoming a bit of a pattern, you could send her a little joke, like, ‘You better try to respond faster this time, just to make sure I’m not married with kids already.’ That way, you don’t seem scolding, but get the point across.